Sex Frequency To Get Pregnant

If You Are Trying To Get Pregnant, This Is How Often You Should have Sex

How often should I be having sex to conceive? Should I do it multiple times per day, or only during my fertile window? According to booty loads of scientific research, having sex every other day gives you the highest chances of conceiving. Many couples are surprised to learn that having sex every day can decrease your odds of getting pregnant.

Perhaps some of you are thinking, oh thank goodness—I couldn’t possibly do it every day. After all, people often use words like “exhausting,” “stressful,” and “robotic” to describe sex aimed solely at conception. Burnout is a common issue for couples struggling to conceive. Taking some days off can help you reignite that spark on your days on.  

Why Having Sex Every Other Day Increases Your Chances Of Conceiving

In order to get pregnant, sperm count must be at least 20 million parts per milliliter. Research shows your chances are highest when sperm count is around 40-50 million/mL. Anywhere between 35 and 120 million/mL is considered normal. Interestingly, in 1989, 35-year-old men had an average sperm concentration of 73.6 million/mL, but by 2005 averages dipped down to 49.9 million/mL.

Having sex every day can be counterproductive because daily ejaculation causes sperm count to go down. Men with high sperm count won’t see a large enough decrease to impact their chances of producing offspring, but men on the lower end of the spectrum can. There’s no way to know which category your partner falls in without conducting in-depth semen analysis. That’s why it’s best to play it safe and stick to every other day.

Increase Your Odds By Having Sex During Your Fertile Window

Your fertile window is five days before the start of ovulation. If you have sex every other day during this window, you have a 25% chance of getting pregnant. If you have sex every day during this period, your chances go down just slightly to 22%.

There are numerous methods you can use to track your fertile window, but most are very generalized. YONO provides a completely personalized and private at-home method to identify your exact fertility window. You simply wear a comfortable in-ear thermometer to bed, which tracks your basal body temperature and charts your monthly averages on your smartphone. This information is then used to identify your ovulation cycles and fertility window. As a result, you know exactly when your body is most likely to conceive.

Do I Need To Have Sex Outside Of My Fertility Window?

Having sex outside of your fertility window is good for your health and good for your relationship, and despite popular belief, doing so increases your chances of getting pregnant. A few recent studies have found that sex alters a woman’s immune system in fundamental ways that improve her chances of getting pregnant. Plus, if a man does not ejaculate once every 2 to 3 days, his sperm count increases but so too do the number of immobile, dead or abnormal sperm. 

Some couples enjoy incorporating sex into their routines every other day, while others find it overwhelming to have so much sex. Either way, do your best to enjoy it now, because after the baby comes it’s going to be much harder to find time for those intimate moments!